Exploring True Happiness in Relationships Without Love

Most of what we consider 'love' is merely a self-centered focus on how we feel. This is not love. And what we call 'in love' has nothing to do with love. It is a short-term subconscious brain reaction that makes us feel high. We fall 'in love' with being high, which is why so many relationships turn sour once the brain chemistry returns to normal and the high fades.

Is It Possible to Be Happy in a Relationship Without Love?

It is possible to be happy in ANY situation. 95% of how we feel comes from our self-created subconscious emotional patterns. So, most of our happiness and unhappiness is created BY us. What we feed into our brain determines what comes out of it.

As a cooperative tribal animal, mankind evolved to care about others. Being more concerned about others is likely to make us happier, as long as we do not make ourselves too unhappy. The more we focus on ourselves, the more isolated and discontented we are likely to feel. Trying to use a relationship to become happy is focusing on oneself and will not work for a long time, no matter how much you might call it 'love'.

The Illusion of Love in Relationships

Relationships can take 20 years or more for a married couple to learn how to become happy from within, so they can share their contentment with each other. No human being is perfect, so no marriage will be either. However, the less well we work with our emotional reactions, the less happy we will be in a long-term relationship. This is true even if the initial temporary brain chemistry of 'in love' made us feel temporarily high.

The Harsh Reality of Loveless Relationships

Many today are in loveless relationships, where people are only together for the sake of attachment and convenience. Our souls yearn for love, which is our basic need right from birth until death. No relationships can last without love; even if they do, they cannot be healthy and will never bring true happiness to your life.

As such, true happiness in a relationship is not about the emotional highs of love but about becoming happy within yourself first. Once you achieve this inner contentment, your own unhappiness will not be self-focused, allowing you to love and share happiness with someone else.

Understanding and accepting this can lead to a healthier, happier relationship focused on mutual growth and understanding rather than emotional dependence or temporary highs.