Navigating the Twenties: Advice for Post-School Struggles and Uncertainty

Many people in their twenties encounter challenges when it comes to their career paths, especially if they have had to move for work or study. This is a common experience, even for those who have graduated and are looking to make meaningful changes.

Feeling Lost and Despondent: A Common Experience

Feeling lost and empty at 20 is more common than you might think. It is a time of transition, and many young adults face uncertainties about their future, particularly if they had to move to a different country for work or had difficulties adapting to a new language. Such experiences can lead to feelings of depression and helplessness.

One approach is to explore new interests or hobbies that ignite your passion. Small, reachable goals can provide a sense of direction and motivation. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help; therapists can assist you in navigating these feelings. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you and remind you that it’s okay to seek help and take your time in figuring things out. For more advice, check out my Quora Profile!

Overcoming Career Indecision

Feeling lost after finishing school can be overwhelming, especially if you have to navigate complex situations like language barriers and relocation. You might simply lack enough information to make a decision, as did I at age 20. I didn’t want to be a “housewife”, and you may have similar feelings.

Start by listing your goals, both long and short term, in a notebook. Regularly update this list to reflect your progress and new aspirations. Goals are your reasons for getting up every day. They can be to learn a new language, play a musical instrument, visit a place, or even improve your relationship with family members. Stay busy, and thank God and your parents for the opportunity to pursue these goals.

Adulting and Mental Health in the Twenties

As you approach your thirtieth birthday, you might start to notice that things are getting easier. The 20s are known for being one of the hardest decades. However, it is essential to make the most of your time. Go on adventures, pursue education if you feel it suits you, or don’t. Don’t waste your time with relationships that don’t uplift you. Drink water and exercise, and start journaling. Make a list of all the biggest and best goals you could possibly want. Don’t waste your time on jobs that don’t contribute to your long-term aspirations.

Addressing Depression and Anxiety

If you are experiencing clinical depression, please consult your doctor for anti-depressants. These can provide short-term relief and help you gain a clearer perspective on your situation. Twenty years old is still young, and you are naturally in a phase of learning and growth. Everyone feels lost sometimes; they just might be better at hiding it.

Loneliness can be challenging, but it requires bravery. Consider joining an MMA class. It will boost your confidence, get you in shape, and you’ll likely meet new friends. I’m serious; it will work. Surround yourself with people who value honesty and growth.

Let yourself be a goofy 20-year-old, admit you don’t know much, and let people teach you. Practice active listening, taking an interest in others. This will help you build genuine connections and never want for friends. Ask simple questions and actively listen without ulterior motives. You might be surprised at how many people long to be truly heard.

Conclusion

May you continue to find joy and safety as you navigate the decades of life. Rely on your support network, and embrace the learning process. You are on a journey, and every step is part of your personal growth.