The Journey of an INFJ 1W2: Passion, Trauma, and Personal Growth

Irsquo;m an INFJ-T 1W2, and Irsquo;m deeply passionate about motor racing. One of my idols, the legendary Ayrton Senna, was also an INFJ 1W2, and it was a profound moment to realize that we share the same type and a shared passion for racing.

Like most individuals, Irsquo;ve taken various personality tests online, and the answer has always been the same: INFJ 1W2. Every time I read about my motivations being so clearly laid out, I feel a mix of emotions—satisfaction, understanding, and sometimes, a protective embrace. Growing up, I learned to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself, partly because it felt too vulnerable to be honest and face the judgments of others.

I believe that -at least for males- finding our way to the INFJ type often results from traumatic experiences. This journey can steer us towards a fulfilling life or one where we feel forever excluded. My friend, who is an ISFJ 9w1, experienced the latter. He was incredibly kind and understanding, but his perfectionism and constant self-criticism stemmed from harsh parents and his own demanding standards. Although we clashed occasionally, he inspired me to change and grow for the better.

Feeling Like an Excluded Member

My observation, based on growing up in the US and within my demographic, is that the INFJ type has one of the highest suicide rates in the world. This observation might be biased, but it serves as a stark reality for those who donrsquo;t find themselves welcomed into the INFJ community early in life. For instance, my first experience with taking the personality test was unsuccessful. Overcoming the emotional pain and the ensuing trauma required a detailed plan for a second attempt.

Before being able to embrace my true self, I had to face many challenges, such as the judgment of others based on assumptions. It took courage to face the critique and humiliation that often comes with sharing inner thoughts and emotions, especially after experiencing significant personal trauma. The struggle to seek validation and understanding made every success, no matter how small, a moment to celebrate.

Emotional Connection and Growth

When I finally embraced my true self through the personality test, it was a breakthrough moment. The emotional clarity and validation it provided were invaluable. It felt as if all my years of hiding and struggling had led me to a place of acceptance and understanding. However, it also underscored the pain and loneliness that often come with being an INFJ 1W2, especially for young individuals.

My best friend, an ISFJ 9w1, was a perfect example of how emotional validation can lead to personal growth. Despite his perfectionism and high standards, he was the kindest and most understanding person Irsquo;d ever met. He continuously sought to help and support others, always wanting to make a positive impact. His unyielding dedication to helping others, even when they were going through tough times, was impressive. However, his emotional struggles, fueled by his demanding family and self-critical nature, were hard to see sometimes.

We shared a bond that many of us in the 1W2 type can relate to. Our 1 fix provided a sense of maturity and emotional depth, but it also led to occasional clashes. Nevertheless, my friend taught me valuable lessons about emotional intelligence, helping others, and being more proactive in my own life. We both often showed a serious and disciplined side, but we also had moments of playfulness and creativity.

Our deep friendship allowed us to embrace our inner world and external challenges. We supported each other in our goals and dreams, and together, we made significant strides in personal and professional development. My friendrsquo;s influence helped me change for the better, from being distant and stubborn to becoming a better helpmate and a person who actively embraced the future. Sharing my journey with my friend not only provided me with a sense of belonging but also with a framework to navigate the world around me.

In conclusion, the path to self-discovery as an INFJ 1W2 is a unique and often challenging journey. It involves facing personal trauma, overcoming judgment, and finding a community of like-minded individuals. The emotional intelligence and deep empathy that come with the type can lead to a fulfilling life if embraced and nurtured. My story and my best friendrsquo;s example are just two pieces of a larger puzzle that speaks to the importance of self-acceptance and the power of friendship in personal growth.

Key Takeaways

Embracing your true self can lead to a sense of clarity and validation. Understanding and supporting others through emotional challenges can foster personal growth. Friendship and community are crucial for emotional well-being and self-discovery.