Understanding PWBPD Behaviors: Loyalty and Love Tests
Understanding PWBPD Behaviors: Loyalty and Love Tests
This article delves into the often harmful and misleading behaviors of individuals with Paraphilia and Borderline Personality Disorder (PWBPD). These individuals might resort to what they perceive as 'tests' to measure their partners' loyalty and love. However, it is important to distinguish these actions from genuine tests of commitment and trust.
Manipulative Techniques and Their Intent
People with PWBPD may use various manipulative techniques to gauge their partner's loyalty and commitment. These behaviors can be hurtful and damaging, often leaving their partners questioning their value and worth.
Truth versus Harmful Misinformation
Some partners might share harmful or hurtful lies as a form of test. These lies can include:
Telling dramatic or false stories to gain sympathy or attention, Oversharing personal or false information to guilt-trip the partner, Lying about their intentions to manipulate reactions.Others may resort to threatening suicide or self-harm as a way to elicit specific emotional responses, often leading to intense, albeit counterproductive, emotional validation.
Creating Chaos for Reactions
Some PWBPD individuals might engage in unnecessary drama or manipulative scenarios specifically to provoke reactions from their partners. These behaviors are designed to push emotional buttons and garner unwanted attention.
Common Loyalty and Love Tests
PWBPD individuals often engage in a variety of behaviors that are not genuine tests of commitment. Instead, they are designed to test and control their partners through manipulation.
Removed Texting Initiative
One common technique is not texting the partner first and expecting them to initiate communication. The logic behind this is that the person cares because they are aware of the need for constant attention.
Push-Pull Dynamics
Another method involves pushing the partner away and then trying to prove their worth or commitment. This often leads to intense emotional reactions and can be emotionally exhausting for the partner.
Unarticulated Communication
There is a belief that if the partner truly loved, they would understand unspoken desires or needs without being explicitly communicated. However, this is often used as a form of emotional control and can lead to misunderstandings.
Prioritizing Others
Some individuals with PWBPD might focus on their work, school, or other relationships, under the guise of prioritizing their stability. This can create a sense of uncertainty and anxiety in the relationship, as the partner may question the depth of feelings.
Memory Tests
Constantly sharing personal information and monitoring whether the partner remembers, or reproaching them when they don't, is another form of control. This reinforces dependency and creates an environment of distrust.
Visual Depreciation
Another technique is to intentionally look unattractive or act in a way that minimizes their own appeal. This can be a form of self-degradation and manipulation, often leaving the partner questioning their own worth.
Avoiding Flirting
Not responding to flirts or flirtatious behavior, especially towards others, is another way to push the partner away. This can also be seen as a display of emotional detachment, which can be misleading and manipulative.
Avoiding Commitments
Not making commitments first and always waiting for the partner to take the lead can be a way to test their commitment. This approach can build frustration and uncertainty within the relationship.
Conclusion
It's crucial to recognize that these behaviors are often rooted in manipulation and fear, rather than true loyalty and love. If you or someone you know is struggling with these issues, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor who specializes in personality disorders can be extremely beneficial in navigating relationships and personal growth.
However, it's important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Being PWBPD means navigating a complex and often misunderstood condition. Supporting and validating their emotional journey can go a long way in fostering healthier relationships.