Why Am I Anxious When He's Not Around? Dealing with Relationship Anxiety

Have you ever found yourself feeling anxious when the guy you're seeing isn't around? Are you constantly wondering what he's up to, or have you noticed that he bombards you with questions and accusations the moment you reconnect? Or is it something else—maybe you're scared something might happen to him, and you won't be there to help?

H1: Understanding Relationship Anxiety

Relationship anxiety, often rooted in either a supportive and considerate partner or your own mindset driven by right brain anxiety, can be a complex emotion that stems from a deep-seated need for control or constant reassurance. Regardless of the cause, the solution lies in understanding and addressing these issues head-on.

H1: The Two Reasons and the Fix

There are two primary reasons for this anxiety, but the fix is essentially the same:

He is a good boyfriend, taking the stress off you, reducing right brain anxiety. You have right brain anxiety driven by an OCD-like need to have him around.

The fix is straightforward in theory: stop thinking with the faulty right brain and only think with the left logical brain. This approach, inspired by EGMi (Ergonomics, Genetics, Medicine, and Information) and treatments like TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation), is designed to optimize the use of the left brain and address mental health issues effectively.

H1: Dealing with Excessive Anxiety

When anxiety starts to interfere with your daily life and relationships, it's important to recognize and address the root cause. Anxiety is a normal and common emotion that helps you prepare for challenging situations such as tests, presentations, or dates. However, it can become excessive, persistent, or irrational, leading to negative outcomes in your personal and professional life.

H2: Symptoms of Relationship Anxiety

Persistent doubt, fear, or worry in a relationship Affecting happiness and satisfaction in a relationship Unhealthy behaviors such as being overly dependent, clingy, or controlling Distancing from your partner

If you find yourself in this situation, it's essential to recognize that your anxiety is not your fault. You are not responsible for your partner's actions or behaviors, and you are not the cause of their problems or failures. Don't let them make you feel guilty or ashamed for something you didn't do.

H2: Tips for Dealing with Relationship Anxiety

Recognize Your Worth: Remind yourself of your strengths, skills, and achievements. You have value and worth as a person and as a partner. Communicate Openly: Talk to your partner about your anxiety. Be honest about how you feel and what you need from them. Listen to their perspective and try to understand their feelings and needs as well. Communicate clearly and respectfully without blaming, accusing, or criticizing each other. Find solutions that work for both of you. Focus on the Present: Don't let past or future anxieties cloud your judgment or affect your mood. Instead, focus on the here and now and enjoy the time you spend with your partner. Acknowledge the Good: Appreciate the little things they do for you, enjoy the fun moments you share together, and be grateful for the love and support they offer you.

By addressing these aspects of your relationship anxiety, you can improve your mental health, strengthen your bond with your partner, and foster a happier, more satisfying relationship.