Overcoming Unfinished Business with Someone You’ll Never See Again

Are you struggling to move on from a single, unforgettable meeting with someone who now seems out of reach? Let's explore why getting over them might be easier than you think, and how to achieve emotional closure.

Why You Are Hesitating

It's natural to feel a connection or pull towards someone after just one meeting. But the common advice is to concentrate on the fact that you will never see this person again. This approach can help, but it might not fully address why you are still hanging on to those unresolved feelings.

The reality is, setting yourself up with false hopes of a reunion leads to pain, frustration, and failed expectations. Accept that they are out of your life and focus on the present rather than the past.

Recognize the Pain

Every relationship, even a fleeting one, can leave a mark. Recognizing the pain can help you understand what you are missing in your current life. Ask yourself: what are the areas where you could be thriving if you weren’t weighed down by past feelings?

What are you missing in your life?
Look at the aspects of your life that could be enhanced. Do you want to pursue hobbies, learn new skills, or improve your mental and emotional wellbeing? Are there personal or professional goals you should be pursuing?

Embrace Closure

Closure does not mean forgetting; it means recognizing that a relationship has ended and moving forward. When two people stop talking, it signifies an end to the dialogue. Most people do not desire to revisit past endings, as it often brings up negative emotions.

You have closure.
Accept that the relationship is over. This doesn't mean you have to erase the memories, but you can choose to stop dwelling on the unfinished business and move forward.

Is Closure Needed?

Sometimes, you may feel you need closure, but this could be a red flag. It's possible that the unresolved feelings are being used by someone to trouble you. If this is the case, it might be useful to understand more about the game play involved and the underlying conditions that are at play.

Is someone trying to trouble you?
Take a step back and ask yourself why you need closure. Are you being pressured into feeling a certain way? If you find that the other person is using the "unfinished business" as a tool to manipulate or bother you, it's important to acknowledge this.

Move Forward or Stay No Contact?

The harsh reality for emotional healing.
While waiting for closure can be tempting, research suggests that finding a new, better relationship might be more effective. Look for someone who complements and enhances your life rather than someone who fills a void left by a past relationship.

Note: If you meet someone new, don't rush into things. Take your time to get to know them and ensure they are a good fit for you. Hasty decisions can lead to disappointment.

Closing Thoughts

Overcoming the feeling of unfinished business is a personal and emotional journey. While it's essential to accept that the person is no longer a part of your life, it’s also crucial to find new sources of fulfillment and happiness. Embrace the present, and let go of past regrets and disappointments. Your life awaits your full and present presence.