Reflections on Military Service: Do People Regret Enlisting?

Enlisting in the U.S. Armed Forces is a profound and critical decision that can impact the course of one's life. Many serve a commendable duty, while some experience varying degrees of regret later on. This article explores the question: Do individuals ever express remorse for enlisting and subsequently going on active duty with any branch of the U.S. military, even if they had other options available before joining?

Personal Insights of an Ex-Military Serviceman

I served two terms on active duty with the U.S. Army, enduring some injuries and returning home to raise my children. After working for 20 years, my oldest child is now serving in the army, which feels like a third attempt at military service. However, I regret none of these service periods. In fact, I would serve again if given the chance but with vastly different decisions. The wisdom of age and experience is the defining factor. Young high school graduates often lack the knowledge and experience to make wise decisions, leading them to enlist too early. They are better off waiting until their mid-20s to decide.

Opinions of Military Service Members: Regrets and Choices

While some individuals do experience regret, it is important to note that this sentiment is not universal. Some continue to serve their country with renewed vigor and make different choices based on what they have learned. However, physical limitations can play a significant role; for example, I am in my mid-60s and am unable to serve again due to a loss of physical fitness.

A personal reflection reveals that if I could go back to my sophomore year of high school with the knowledge I have now, I would likely opt out of military service. This sentiment aligns with the experiences of many who, with hindsight, view their initial choices with suspicion. Some participants express that buyer's remorse, akin to the hesitations one might feel when purchasing a significant product, is a common feeling among service members. The reasons for this remorse can be diverse, such as unrealistic expectations, issues with recruiters, or changing circumstances.

Understanding the Complexities of Military Service

Service members often experience "buyer's remorse" due to a myriad of reasons. Some realize that the branch they chose is more difficult than expected, or perhaps, not challenging enough by contrast. For instance, one service member who initially joined the Marines found the Army too relaxed and returned to the Marines. Another person discovered after rigorous training and assignment to a permanent base that their job was far from what they envisioned. These experiences highlight how service can sometimes be dispiriting, but generally, this sentiment wanes as they adapt to their roles.

While some individuals regret their choices, it is heartening to know that most service members deal with significant regrets but manage to make the best of their situation. The hardships and challenges of military life often serve as a catalyst for personal growth, resilience, and a deeper appreciation for what they do. In the end, the process of 'soldiering on' is a testament to the resilience and sacrifice of those who choose to serve.